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Depression and Thoughts | Koustubhi Mukherji

Today, I write this with a very heart, but I want to share my thoughts with people who may or may not understand this. I am doing this, because I want to. Maybe the day and time is not right, now. And with these times, I don't see the time getting right any time soon.

A few days ago, I was supposedly facing a writer's block, so I decided to get some suggestions from my Instagram followers. One of the suggestions was Depression. At that time, I was like I don't what to write because I was afraid to come across this subject to deal and had apprehensions that would it be right. But today's turn of events force me to do so, to come face to face with this.

We as society for a long time have ignored the mental health of our beings. Why? I believe, because it is hard to understand and difficult to attend to. Also there are many people who don't even know that they are suffering from depression, because there is no proper awareness regarding this. No one gives a thought to "How I feel?", or "What should I do to make myself happy?", or "Me time". This is because, this thoughts are self centered and move around the word "I", which has always been labelled as selfish and narcissist, and has always been looked down upon. The discussion has to change, for the better of the society because a society cannot exist with people who are having a hard time emotionally and mentally. We always acknowledge the physical problems, but forget to address the other aspects of well being, mental well being, emotional well being and as well as social well being.   

The most saddening part of this discussion to start, is the death of a beloved actor Sushant Singh Rajput. Statuses and stories across all social media are filled with messages of mental well being and depression, and talk to your loved ones or I am there for you when you need. People need to understand that it is easier said than done. It takes a lot of courage to come with terms of the situations and conditions all around; and then a lot more courage to talk to some one. Fears of being judges, misunderstood and being ridiculed or lectured at, is another set of problems to overcome, which has complete potential to drag deeper into the very hole, of which the person trying to get out. People are easily saying talk to loved ones but who is there to listen. Listen patiently, without judging or gossiping.

Suddenly, today everyone's status is filled with the messages, I am there to listen to you. Even my status is the same on Instagram. But do you really have the patience to listen patiently, will you make the person comfortable enough to share his or her thoughts, will you be completely unbiased, can just listen and don't give any kind of advice. This is because the person may only need someone, who just listens to their thoughts and help them calm down and arrange the chaos in the mind in to something less disturbing. Mind you, all this talk is coming from a very personal space.This discussion was needed to start. I am glad that this did happen but the cost which we had to pay is making my heart heavy.

The role of media is also something which needs to be criticized in such sad times. The father who just came to know about his son's demise through news on the TV, can't be given the time to feel his loss and react in his personal capacity, because there is journalism to be done. There are a few people to have the audacity to click picture of a dead body and post it on the social media, like we didn't give you peace of mind while you were alive so how can you expect in your death.

Can we just stop being judgmental and try to be a bit compassionate to other people, because we never know what kind battles they are fighting within themselves or what they going through emotionally or mentally? Can we, please act a tad bit responsibly? Please, can we?

 
 
 
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